“I don't trust people who don't love themselves and tell me, 'I love you.' ... There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” ~Maya Angelou
I like people watching.
It could be considered a light hobby of mine.
What I get out of people watching isn’t only voyeuristic entertainment but often insights into the human psyche.
There’s magic watching concepts and theories play out live, in-real-time, in real life, by people I don’t know and can’t predict.
Recently, I was in a trendy coffee shop in downtown Seattle. The café was packed and buzzing with energy. Which meant that people were sitting on top of each other.
Children are a great incentive and impetus for parents to learn about themselves, about each other and about life itself. Unfortunately, much of the learning may occur at their expense.
~Dr. Gabor Maté, Physician, Addiction & Trauma Expert
I used to dress like a cross between bag lady and fairy princess. This was when I was very young. About 3-5 years of age. According to my mom, I went through a period where the first words out of my mouth the moment I woke up was, “I wanna wear a dress.” (in mandarin).
All that is important is this one moment in movement. Make the moment important, vital, and worth living. Do not let it slip away unnoticed and unused.
~Martha Graham, American dancer, teacher and choreographer
As a coach, I help people reconnect and gain clarity within themselves to improve in different areas of life such as stress, relationship, work and trauma.
While these areas might seem different at first, often what helps my clients get “unstuck” share a commonality - and that is presence.
C'mon, stay with me. I can already hear the snoring coming my way. Zzzz.
Hiring a life coach is like dating - it's exciting & life altering, but can be complicated and traumatizing, if your'e not careful
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
"Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people." ~Carl Jung
The moment you decide you want to hire a coach is an exciting one.
Like dating, you’re pumped for the possibilities.
But like dating, you soon realize it can be complicated and tricky to figure out what’s what. And depending on who you ask, you always get a different answer on the “rules of the game.”
"The stress-response can be more damaging than the stressor itself, especially when the stress is purely psychological. And if you experience every day as an emergency, you will pay the price." ~Dr. Robert M. Sapolsky (Professor of biology and neurology at Stanford University).
Stress is predicted by scientists to be the downfall of our modern society.
"No one undertakes research in physics with the intention of winning a prize. It is the joy of discovering something no one knew before." ~ Stephen Hawking
Do you ever experience this? Or is it just me?
"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world." ~Buddha
I admit, the title is a hint obnoxious.
Almost sounds like I have it all figured out. But that's far from the truth.
"Trust your heart if the seas catch fire, live by love though the stars walk backward." ~E.E. Cummings
Have you ever been stuck on a decision? What tactics did you use to help you with decision making?
A pro/con list? Crunch some numbers? Eeny, meeny, miny, moe? The magic 8 ball? Read some tea leaves
“Not why the addiction but why the pain.” ~ Dr. Gabor Maté, Physician and Addiction Expert
The below used to be a common routine of mine that gave me great stress and anxiety on a daily basis:
“The physiological states that support defense are incompatible with those that support creativity and expansive theories.”
~Dr. Stephen W. Porges, Psychologist, Neuroscientist, and Evolutionary Biologist
Before I quit my corporate career of 15+ years, I used to regularly engage in “protective behaviors” that were widely accepted, but in retrospect were quite damaging to my humanity and the humanity of the people with whom I interacted.