Hiring a life coach is like dating - it's exciting & life altering, but can be complicated and traumatizing, if your'e not careful (read this before you hire any coach)
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
"Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people." ~Carl Jung
The moment you decide you want to hire a coach is an exciting one.
Like dating, you’re pumped for the possibilities.
But like dating, you soon realize it can be complicated and tricky to figure out what’s what. And depending on who you ask, you always get a different answer on the “rules of the game.”
"The stress-response can be more damaging than the stressor itself, especially when the stress is purely psychological. And if you experience every day as an emergency, you will pay the price." ~Dr. Robert M. Sapolsky (Professor of biology and neurology at Stanford University).
Stress is predicted by scientists to be the downfall of our modern society.
"No one undertakes research in physics with the intention of winning a prize. It is the joy of discovering something no one knew before." ~ Stephen Hawking
Do you ever experience this? Or is it just me?
"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world." ~Buddha
I admit, the title is a hint obnoxious.
Almost sounds like I have it all figured out. But that's far from the truth.
"Trust your heart if the seas catch fire, live by love though the stars walk backward." ~E.E. Cummings
Have you ever been stuck on a decision? What tactics did you use to help you with decision making?
A pro/con list? Crunch some numbers? Eeny, meeny, miny, moe? The magic 8 ball? Read some tea leaves
“Not why the addiction but why the pain.” ~ Dr. Gabor Maté, Physician and Addiction Expert
The below used to be a common routine of mine that gave me great stress and anxiety on a daily basis:
“The physiological states that support defense are incompatible with those that support creativity and expansive theories.”
~Dr. Stephen W. Porges, Psychologist, Neuroscientist, and Evolutionary Biologist
Before I quit my corporate career of 15+ years, I used to regularly engage in “protective behaviors” that were widely accepted, but in retrospect were quite damaging to my humanity and the humanity of the people with whom I interacted.
"The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision." ~Helen Keller
A colleague once told me a story of a boss he worked with who suffered a heart attack days before a high-profile project was due.
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
In the spirit of love on Valentine's Day, I'm sharing with you some of the things that I do to offset and recover from the stress that I experience in my life.
"Emotional competence requires the capacity to feel our emotions, so that we are aware when we are experiencing stress." ~ Addiction Expert Gabor Maté, Ph.D
What comes up for you when you think about stress? If you’re like me, I used to think