“The physiological states that support defense are incompatible with those that support creativity and expansive theories.”
~Dr. Stephen W. Porges, The Polyvagal Theory Scientist
Before I quit my corporate career of 15+ years, I used to regularly engage in “protective behaviors” that were widely accepted, but in retrospect were quite damaging to my humanity and the humanity of the people with whom I interacted.
"The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision." ~Helen Keller
A colleague once told me a story of a boss he worked with who suffered a heart attack days before a high-profile project was due.
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
In the spirit of love on Valentine's Day, I'm sharing with you some of the things that I do to offset and recover from the stress that I experience in my life.
"Emotional competence requires the capacity to feel our emotions, so that we are aware when we are experiencing stress." ~ Addiction Expert Gabor Maté, Ph.D
What comes up for you when you think about stress? If you’re like me, I used to think
Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see ~Mark Twain
Be kind. Be compassionate. Be loving.
Most people associate these rules of engagement with how we interact with others more so than how we treat ourselves.
Most people I know, including myself, work really hard. I mean, around the clock, really. You wake up thinking about work and go to sleep to dream about more work (you have not dreamt until you dream in PowerPoint! True story).
It's graduation time! So many bright and shiny faces pumped to live out dreams, build successful lives and contribute to the society. Someone asked me, "what advice would you give to new graduates?"
"Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath." ~ Eckhart Tolle
I'm going about my normal day. Doing my typical thing at work when I receive an email…THE email that is a bomb wrapped between “Hi” and “Thanks.”
“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
Mindfulness is a buzzword with growing popularity in the mainstream media as well as in our daily lives.
Why is knowing what makes you truly happy such an important question?
Well, let me ask you in another way…